I’ve recently had some conversations with people in their 30s, 40s and 50s about whether they should pursue a diagnosis of ADHD and/or ASD, especially since it is so costly to go through this process and if you’re not looking for medication.
It's never too late to understand your unique cognitive and emotional landscape. For women in their 30s, 40s, or even 50s, obtaining a diagnosis of ADHD (Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder) or autism can be a pivotal step towards self-realisation and personal growth. Here's why I think seeking a diagnosis at these stages of life can be both essential and life changing.
Shedding Light on the Past
As you reflect on your life, you might notice patterns of behaviour or emotional responses that have always seemed puzzling or out of place. A diagnosis can provide clarity on why certain challenges persisted, offering explanations for seemingly inexplicable past experiences, particularly stemming from your childhood and continuing to be triggered through adulthood. Understanding how you may have masked traits—adopting behaviours to fit social expectations—can help you see past struggles in a new light, reducing self-blame and fostering compassion on yourself.
Personalised Strategies
With a diagnosis, you gain access to tailored strategies to navigate daily life more effectively. This may involve working with professionals to develop techniques for improving focus, managing social interactions, or reducing anxiety. Acknowledging your needs also leads to making informed decisions about lifestyle changes or accommodations that suit your authentic self, enhancing your overall quality of life.
Strengthening Relationships
By understanding your cognitive profile, you can communicate more effectively with loved ones. Family members, friends, and colleagues may not have insights into the struggles of someone who has been masking symptoms. Your diagnosis provides an opportunity to educate them, fostering empathy and reducing misunderstandings. After all, women have always been overlooked for autism and ADHD diagnoses for so long. This mutual understanding can improve relationships and build stronger support networks.
Empowering Self-Advocacy
Knowledge is power, and knowing your neurodevelopmental identity enables you to advocate for yourself in personal and professional environments. Whether it's requesting workplace accommodations or seeking appropriate health care, understanding your unique needs allows you to assert them confidently. Self-advocacy is essential for creating environments where you can thrive.
Combating Stereotypes
Pursuing a diagnosis challenges stereotypes about ADHD and autism, especially concerning gender and age. These conditions are often misdiagnosed or undiagnosed in women, partly due to societal expectations. By seeking a diagnosis, you contribute to raising awareness and altering perceptions, helping pave the way for others to seek the understanding they deserve.
Embracing Authenticity
Above all, understanding your ADHD or autism can lead you to embrace your true self. The quirks and traits you previously masked can be celebrated rather than hidden, allowing you to live a more authentic and fulfilling life. Discovering your inner strengths and unique perspectives can open new doors to personal and professional opportunities.
While the path to a diagnosis can be challenging, the liberation and understanding it brings are worth the pursuit. If you suspect ADHD or autism might be a part of your story, consider reaching out to mental health professionals who specialise in adult diagnoses. Remember, understanding yourself is a lifelong journey, and at any age, taking the step towards self-awareness is a testament to your resilience and capacity for growth.